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BENNY'S TAKE
Paul’s Unpublished Letter to the Saints on Christian Privilege
In this life I am a Christian. Before all the Pharisees and Sadducees book my one way ticket to hell, let me be clear that even in other...

Benedicte Kalala
Jul 84 min read


I’m not Broke, I’m just a Homeowner: 3 Things I wish I knew Before buying a House
If I spend any more on this house I’ll have no other choice but to return it back to the sender because this is becoming a weapon formed...

Benedicte Kalala
Feb 64 min read


What To Look For When Buying a House in a Seller's Market
The last time we spoke on here, we covered all the basis of the work it takes to get pre-approved for a mortgage. Today we’re discussing...

Benedicte Kalala
Sep 13, 20245 min read


Navigating Homeownership in a Seller's Market
Becoming a homeowner at the ripe age of 28 feels like I’m a board certified adult with all my flabbers ghasted. The first sign of...

Benedicte Kalala
Aug 31, 20244 min read


It Should be Called Young-ish, Famous, & Kind of African
If you haven’t seen it yet, there’s a reality show called Young, Famous, and African on Netflix that has taken the internet by a storm...

Benedicte Kalala
Jun 21, 20233 min read


If You Can’t Preach, You Have No Business Getting on the Pulpit
Before all you saints come in extra heavy and ready to send me to hell, I need you to take your opinion all the way to Bethlehem and...

Benedicte Kalala
Apr 29, 20233 min read


Why some Fathers Need to Start Parenting instead of Babysitting
To those that are present in the lives of their children, spending time getting to know them, loving, supporting and sometimes...

Benedicte Kalala
Apr 15, 20233 min read


"I Did it Alone" is NOT The Flex We Think it is
To know me is to know that I pride myself in being self-sufficient and relying on myself to do what needs to get done. In fact, it is one...

Benedicte Kalala
Mar 12, 20233 min read


My Nyansh Secured Me a Husband
So your girl is getting married and just to be clear, once I get married, I plan on responding with “my husband and I” for everything. So...

Benedicte Kalala
Feb 25, 20233 min read


4 Best Social Media Etiquettes You Need to Know About
Let’s all be honest about how much time we spend scrolling through social media minding everyone’s business. While some of us may have...

Benedicte Kalala
Feb 18, 20233 min read


Am I becoming an adult? #2022Lessons
It’s that time of year where most of us try to be more reflective in order to not take the same junk into the next year. Now don’t get me...

Benedicte Kalala
Dec 28, 20223 min read


New Year and a Slightly New Me: personal goals for the year and how I plan on achieving them
Let's talk about resolutions It is that time of the year when we all set goals for the new year. These goals vary from health,...

Benedicte Kalala
Nov 24, 20223 min read


3 Things I Started Doing to be Better at Relationships
Self awareness is key There’s a lot of things that we can avoid in life by just knowing ourselves, our triggers, strengths, and...

Benedicte Kalala
Oct 19, 20223 min read


Bettering Myself vs Feeling Inherently Flawed
The people I envy Let me preface this by saying that jealousy is a natural and normal emotion like every other emotion humans experience....

Benedicte Kalala
Oct 13, 20223 min read


Intentionality: why we should all practice it
My birthday tomorrow Have you all ever dealt with those annoying people that make their birthdays such a big deal? They will somehow...

Benedicte Kalala
Oct 5, 20224 min read


Self Care & The Internet: Why we need to rethink what we call 'self care'
Did someone say self care? One of my favorite things to do as I’ve gotten older is to sit at home doing absolutely nothing. My couch...

Benedicte Kalala
Sep 28, 20224 min read


Dealing with Imposter Syndrome: Why We Should all Be More Audacious
Bless the internet One thing I love about having access to the internet and the thoughts of others is the blessing of having certain...

Benedicte Kalala
Sep 22, 20223 min read


The problems with the rise of 'Afrobeats to the world': Is nothing sacred?
A little background Afrobeats is a music genre that originated primarily in Nigeria in the 1960's with a creative blend of West African...

Benedicte Kalala
Sep 20, 20223 min read
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